School Year Drags For Girl Separated From Boy She Likes

Dear Abby: I’m a 12-year-old girl and I like a boy named “Chris.” We go to different schools now, and I don’t know how to get in touch with him to tell him how I feel. At times for the past two years we have been flirting on and off. We will be reunited again next year. I can’t hold on much longer, and he’s at a school with his ex. What should I do?

— Lover Girl in Alabama

Dear Lover Girl: You have held on this long, so remember the school year is already more than half over. In the fall, you and Chris will be attending the same school again. For now, be patient. Stay active and involved with school, and time will pass more quickly. Focus on activities you enjoy and your friendships. Do not waste your time worrying about the other girl. She and Chris are exes for a reason. If you and Chris are “meant to be,” the chances of that happening will be better when you’re classmates.

Dear Abby: A friend from high school has invited me to her wedding in September. Unfortunately, I won’t be able to attend the bachelorette party. Even though I sent my regrets to the organizer of the party, she has tried to solicit gifts from me twice. This seems extremely tacky.

I don’t want this to reflect poorly on my friend. Should I tell someone in the wedding party so they can fix this faux pas, or am I wrong about wedding etiquette?

— Perplexed in the Midwest

Dear Perplexed: You’re not wrong. That the party organizer is trying to extort gifts from you is extremely rude. The person to inform is the mother of the bride. She should be able to put a stop to it before anyone else is embarrassed.

Dear Abby: My daughter and her husband have a wonderful little boy, “Matthew,” who is 3. They say they don’t plan to have any more children.

I am upset that they won’t be giving my grandson a sibling. They claim the reason is to be earth-friendly, but I think it is selfish. I know my urging won’t change the situation, but it weighs heavily on my mind and makes me sad for Matthew.

My daughter has a brother she is close to. Her husband has two siblings. I think the main reason they don’t want any more children is my son-in-law is 17 years older than my daughter. Is there any good way for me to tell her how upset this makes me?

— Disappointed in Oregon

Dear Disappointed: No, there isn’t. There may be reasons that go beyond your son-in-law’s age for their decision to limit the size of their family to one child. And they are none of your business.

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